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I have a pet peeve: If you as my platonic friend, repeatedly emphasize that you want to treat me to a lunch or supper date, then don't invite a third party to join us and then ask me if it's okay to invite them!

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Happy Day to you guys, hopefully for me, as well, lol.

784 day(s) ago

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Kravenhead
I'm reminded why I'm a hermit.
Since you're sensitive to the feelings of others, it's a sticky wicket for sure.
I'm not a very assertive conversationalist, so I understand how you feel..... Been there.
I've gone and ended up doing a lot of smiling and nodding, while feeling a bit uncomfortable and thinking.. "This ain't at all like I expected".

If you do decide to tell her, and she understands what you're saying, she may take your reason for bowing out as a compliment.
I mean, you are essentially saying you wanted to spend quality time with her, after all.

It's good to vent.
Pressure's hard on the gaskets.


Happy day and evening to you too, Triss!



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Kravenhead
775 day(s) ago
Ah.... It sounds like things worked out well. Yay!

You have a good weekend too.... actually, looking at the time.... Week!

Trissinger
776 day(s) ago
Hi K--, I'm just getting back to things here now.

I think I just needed to bring this to The Big Guy--

Sorry to have bothered you both with this, I'm fine.

(I wrote first to Phil, so to not re-write stuff, feel free to read what I wrote there.)

Hope you are well K--!
I'm feeling pretty busy, playing the harp for a funeral, working, & all.
I have to catch up on net stuff-- will get there.
Have a good weekend I hope.


philosopher
Tris, I am not sure I fully understand but, if another friend just dropped by she may have felt she had to ask them to stay. She may have felt not inviting them would be rude.
In the old days I had many friends and shared different things with each friend.
I had gym friends, work friends, shopping for clothes friends and friends that I shared personal things with. I had my old college friends. Occasionally they met.
For me I found out when my son was diagnosed that few people actually cared.
My gym friend became angry because I could not work out through pregnancy. Many friends moved to New Jersey and we lost touch.
My best college friend showed her real personality when my son was diagnosed.
I made new friends.
Today I have many on line friends and over the years they have helped. It is uplifting when you write about what matters to you and you get many likes. LOL. My Facebook friends are from all over the U.S. Canada and Europe.
My American friends all agree that we love the U.S. constitutional republic. We all like living in a demorcatric republic. We distrust those who want to undermine our laws.
I know what it is like to feel close so to someone and not want to share a special time.
Sometimes figuring out what is appropriate is hard to figure out.

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Trissinger
776 day(s) ago
Hi Phil, I'm just getting back to this now.

A while after I posted this, the young friend came by & we resolved it quickly.

I mentioned to her about the other situation, so I think she called the other woman and told her about it, because when the other woman talked to me next, she said we'd go on our own.
But by then, I would have been fine with the 3 of us going out.

Things are busy here, hope you are well.

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